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[wildflowersoul]

Wow, This discussion on Mefi about Askers vs. Guessers is so interesting. I am a die hard Guesser and Askers just asking for things without having sussed out what the likely outcome of their question baffles me. This probably explains why I am also an over-offer-er; I'd be so uncomfortable asking for x,y, or z that I can't imagine anyone else being comfortable asking. Anyway, interesting reading.

Also, check this out for hilarity. #1 is exactly why I hate holding other people's babies! And the grocery store purchases one just made me so laugh so hard I think I pulled an ab muscle.

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[innerbrat]

*points* This explains so much!

I'm from a family of Guess Culture people who are nevertheless not very good at guessing. So we're passive aggressive if we need something done, put out by askers and I for one always say yes. Also I'm an over-offerer.

[wildflowersoul.livejournal.com]

It really does explain a lot!

[wildflowersoul.livejournal.com]

Yeah, I have a really hard time saying no, though I'm trying to get better at it. But I can't ask for anything without feeling like I'm being a huge annoyance.

[starflow.livejournal.com]

I had an experience where I was the woman that was the subject of that post. I thought I was asking someone who was a friend (granted, a friend from recent years, not childhood) for a place to stay when I came to visit, but their response was clearly a reluctant yes. It made me feel very uncomfortable, and I tried to back out of it. I learned the hard way that I have to guess other people's responses, and therefore, we won't be asking anyone for a place to stay again when we're visiting their town. I wasn't trying to be rude, and a straight "no" would have been no problem, but the fake generosity was painful. Lesson learned.

In slightly related news, I just logged in to my metafilter account and it says "22515 links and 1159366 comments posted since your last visit"! I think I need to peruse the website more often!!

And, the hyperbole and a half post was fantastic. I cried I laughed so hard.

[wildflowersoul.livejournal.com]

Peruse the website more often! There are lots of interesting conversations and nuggets of web wisdom. That hyperbole blog is one of my new favorite things, it never fails to deliver on laughs.

[starflow.livejournal.com]

I'm reading the protein vs refined carbs thing right now. I've actually been following this story for a while, so it'll be fun to read everyone's opinions, especially since it seems that mefi has a higher intelligence rating than other forums.

[wildflowersoul.livejournal.com]

I got to this blog from a comment in that thread- very interesting!